Spank: from theory to practice

Many people has been a sp addictor for years but never have a real experience, just as I was.

It is not easy to take the stride, especially for ladies,  it is also difficult for a man to take the first step as well.

I met my current spankee on the internet in 2005, it took us three year before we decided to experience. She is a timid lady working as a manager in a joint venture and I am a causious man who wanted to find a real spankee, non sexual contact, although spanking is inevitably a sexual activity to some extent consented by adult man and woman, whether we deny it or not.

For two people to reach the point of spank practice, especially for Asia girl, honesty is the most powerful strategy. I did meet some other girls asking for money for spank, I serously doubted whethet they are real spankees or prositutes. Some asked for bdsm, and I said I am not professional at that. 

There are countless girls complaining they were robbed or taken chastity away after being spanked. I would recommend them be circumspect before practice.  

First suggestion is to chat with the people for at least half a year before taking the action. There is a famous saying in China, "Long distance can test a horse' power and long time span can know a person' s loyality". Most cheating scenarios may be unveiled after a long time. A deceiver won't be patient enough. 

Another suggestion is to clarify anything in advance before practice, e. g. How much a spankee can take, bare bottom or not, safety words, what implements will be used. Some spankers just want to find a lady' bottom to beat. They do not care the feeling of the spankees and they do not have any idea how much it would hurt with certain implements. In short, they just want to 'beat'. This will be not only dangerous but also awkward situation for a spankee, you don't want to visit a doctor with bruised buttocks!

It is better to know each other's background to build a mutual trust relationship. It may not be so detailed personal profile check, but such kind of questions as age, job, marriage status, which city does he or she mostly live.  With more knowledge of each other, you can have much more common topics besides spank, I know many spankees and spankers became friends, soul mates or even couples. 

I wish all the spankers and spankees can find your fellows.

For advice how to start spanking as a newbie, please click here.