How to introduce spanking

(This is an article from an unknown author).

If you've been reading a  spanking novel recently and have found that your spanking interests have turned on, you've come to the right place.

Check out this guide on how to introduce spanking into your relationship.

The first step to introducing anything new in bed is always communication. I don't ever recommend just taking the plunge and spanking your partner out of nowhere--that usually doesn't end well.

[I do not totally agree with this, in some cases, e. g.  your partner did something very wrong or being in a stressful mood, it might be a good idea to give her an otk spanking without prior notice to ease their depression or pressure.]

If it's the other way around and you want to be spanked, you're not likely to get it unless you ask. So you're going to have to open your mouth and talk to your partner about it. They might be reticent at first, especially if your partner is a man. I have found that some past partners of mine were unable to do so due to learning that you "never hit a woman" at a young age. Just talk them through it, explain why you're into it and even read them an excerpt from one of your favorite spanking books to really drive the point home. It's important to note that this is something you should try with someone you trust. You never want to incorporate pain or violence into sex with someone you don't trust or can't be honest with. In fact, you should set up a safe word once you've gotten them on board with the spanking. This will allow the two of you to have fun, but know when limits have been reached.

[In my opinoin, spanking should go progressively, e. g. Only use palm for the first time spanking, use slipper or paddle for the next time, then cane. Some spankee has no idea of her/his physical limit so utters the safe words too later, thus makes a hurt.]

So how do you spank? It's not as straight forward as you may think! When you start out, be sure to just involve spanking. Don't mix it with sex or oral sex. Let the recipient, whether that be you or your partner, become accustomed to the pain, to learn how it feels and how they are going to react. You don't want to move on until the spanker has mastered the move and the spankee has mastered the pain.

Start out by fooling around with your partner. It's important that the spankee is aroused. This will allow all of the blood to flow to the top of the skin and will make the body more receptive to erotic pain. Do not attempt any spanking until the spankee feels adequately aroused. Once turned on, have the spankee assume a position that is comfortable for them--this could be on all fours, bending over, strewn across the spanker's lap, or even bent over a chair. Then have the spanker position themselves so they have full range of motion and enough space to accurately spank the spankees backside. The spanker will want to start by using their hands as they are the best gauge for force and pain. First have the spanker warm their hands up by rubbing them together. Then they will have to select their dominate hand, this will be the one they use to spank. The spanker should then slightly cup their hand. Cupping their hand will allow them to make better contact and produce a wonderful smacking sound. Then they will want to aim for the meatiest section of one butt cheek--never try to slap both cheeks at once. As the spank comes down, the spanker will want to make a slight upward stroke vs a downward one. Once the spank has been laid out, the spanker should follow up with a quick caress or massage of the area that was spanked. This will help calm the skin down and prepare it for the next spank. At this point its important for the spankee to show through body language or through words if this was too much, not enough or the perfect amount. From there the two of you can play with varying amounts of pain. Once you feel like you've mastered the hand and the pain, you can move on to spanking aids like paddles, whips, canes or rulers. You can usually find some great options at adult novelty stores or you can use these coupon codes for Adam & Eve.

Finally, spanking should be something that is fun and erotic for the two of you. Do not continue if you don't feel comfortable or don't enjoy it.